This is a divine conversation with my healer/healing coach, Charmayne Kilcup, Ph.D., who introduced me to the power of self-forgiveness. She brings a spacious big love to healing the soul. In this conversation we talk about:
- How to use Self-Forgiveness to heal your heart and soul and why forgiveness itself doesn’t work
- When selflessness is helpful and when it is not
- Shifting from victimhood to seeing that what happens in our lives truly happen not to but for us
- How the mind does not understand the Soul and how to balance this within
- How choosing pleasure and choosing ourselves is in service to all
- Her spiritual emergency and how this lead her to her journey of self-forgiveness and worthiness
- Being worthy of our abundance and material pleasures
- The transmission of primal archetypal feminine energy that is the preparation she needed to feel ready for birthing her baby
- The luscious moments she is enjoying sensate pleasure
Charmayne is a spiritual coach who helps people transform trauma, and pain into joy, ease, and loving. Trained as a counselor, psychologist, and energy worker, Dr. Kilcup has found that self-forgiveness and self-love the are keys to healing that most healing modalities are missing. They were the game-changers that helped her transform an eating disorder, depression, and anxiety into a life of joy and delight. Since that time, Dr. Kilcup has dedicated her career to helping people learn how to use self-forgiveness to transform the negativity in their lives. Currently, she maintains a private practice and is the co-founder of the Institute of Spiritual Coaching which trains people to use self-love and self-forgiveness in their private practices. Her first book, Heal Your Heart: How to Awaken the Soul with Self-Forgiveness released in January 2019.
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8:56 Opening the Episode
12:37 Introducing Charmayne — My Healer
13:33 Who Is Charmayne in Her Own Words?
15:15 What Is Alive in Her World?
15:41 How Do You Prepare for a Baby Being Born?
18:00 Charmayne’s Book: Heal Your Heart — How to Waken Your Soul With Self Forgiveness
18:06 Spiritual Emergency and Awakening at 23
20:47 Mind Does Not Understand Soul
22:05 Balance of Mind & Heart
23:51 Not Much Joy When Living in the Mind
24:59 Forgiveness & Self Forgiveness
27:12 Disclaimer: Sexual Abuse (Talking About How Survivors Feel Like It’s Their Fault, Going Into Self Forgiveness to Release That Self Judgement)
27:57 Disclaimer End
27:58 Method of Self Forgiveness
28:34 Exercising Self Forgiveness Around Her Pregnancy and Being a Bad Mother
29:29 Self Forgiveness Can Lead to Forgiving Others (But It Does Not Have To)
30:36 Self Forgiveness: The Level of Responsibility and Freedom
31:14 Self Forgiveness Over Forgiving Others
32:45 the Antidote to Shame & Unworthiness
34:22 How Did You Get in Touch With Your Own Shame?
34:46 Western College of Santa Fe
35:50 Shame Around Relationships
39:04 Shame Around Abundance and Feeling Like You Have to Only Serve Others
43:10 It Might Have Been Helpful in the Past
44:57 Is It Connected to Selflessness (Young vs. Old Souls)
47:03 Can I Claim My Worthiness?
48:27 Choosing Myself for Myself Is Enough
50:11 Victimhood — What Happens in Our Lives Truly Happen Not To but for Us
53:07 What Are You Challenged With Right Now?
56:13 What Brings You Joy Right Now?
57:26 Anything Else?
57:49 Gratitude & Where to Find Charmayne
1:00:10 Gratitude & Connect
1:00:31 Embody Newsletter
1:01:09 Ending Meditation