97: Taking vs. Receiving — Part 1 — Permission to Take… Cleanse Your Ideas of Taking, Receiving, and Giving
This conversation offers an investigation and self-inquiry around taking, receiving, and giving. We often overvalue giving and stigmatize taking — that taking is selfish, impolite, or that we shouldn’t… we certainly shouldn’t take too much. And we often moralize that it is better to receive than to take. Does that limit us in our fullness?
We need to be able to take. It is an assertive action we can play with and use when we need it. Taking space, taking your own time, taking up space, taking what we need, and ultimately taking our place. My teacher, Suzi Tucker, says that it is first “take, then give.” Taking comes before giving.
In this episode, I discuss our developmental need to take, what beliefs may interfere with our ability to assert and take what we need or desire, taking too much and its relationship with scarcity, and the wounds and messages we may have received and internalized that make it hard for us to take and receive.
This is part one of the series: Cleanse Your Ideas of Taking Receiving, and Giving. Next week: Opening Your Capacity to Receive
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05:50 Birthing New by Embracing Death
07:08 Letting Go of Protecting Others Around My Desires
08:22 Opening Up Through Forgiveness Statements
09:34 Feeling More Aligned With the Present Moment… Less Attached to the Future and Outcomes
10:39 Horses Just Go for What They Want!
11:05 This Does Not Mean Not to Think About the Future
11:31 What in You is Dying?
12:27 Honoring Ourselves Around the Holiday Season
13:26 Meditation: Take This Moment With Some Letting Go and Being With Yourself
15:21 Taking - Part 1: The Meaning
16:50 Clearing the Stigma Around Taking
18:06 the Overvaluing of Giving: Depleting Yourself, Why Are You Giving?
19:42 the Developmental Experience of Taking: Taking Before You Can Give
23:13 Being Able to Ask for What We Want and Take It
24:15 Taking: Not What is Not Yours or More Than You Need
25:38 Greed: Taking What is Not Mine as a Proxy to Fix Basic Needs
27:26 Check-in: What is Your Relationship With Taking?
31:12 Our Place in the World: The Right Place is Always Taken, Not Given - Suzi Tucker
37:42 Messages and Judgments We Hear When We Take
38:34 You Decide What You Need, and What You Need is What You Need
39:17 You Have a Place in This World. That’s a Given.
40:11 Check-in: What Kinds of Beliefs Come Up for You?
41:10 Having and Creating Boundaries for Yourself to Take What You Need
42:04 Outro — Part 2 Comes Next Week
42:33 The Embody Newsletter
44:25 Sending You Into the Week