April 15, 2019

68: The Untold Story, Get Out of Your Own Way, and NARM with Bianka Hardin

I’d like to welcome to the podcast Bianka Hardin, my friend, colleague, and previous supervisor when I was a holistic psychotherapist. Bianka taught me the lived experience of self-care, intention, and the power of visualization.

Listen in on our unique story of synchronicity in each other’s lives plus a rich conversation about:

  • Bianka’s journey into developing more safety and enjoyment in her body and working with anxieties and fears
  • Exploring trust and mistrust
  • The profound experience of realizing she was holding someone else’s fear
  • Bianka’s personal journey into exploring the truth of the untold ancestral story as half German and half from the South
  • How to connect with your her own desires as an empathic person
  • Personal agency and how we can get in our own way
  • What the body-centered and relational model of NARM (Neuro-Affective Relational Model) offers
  • When you feel you’ve had a set back it could actually be the natural contraction that happens after expansion

Bianka Hardin, Psy.D. is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and owner of Centered Therapy Chicago. Dr. Hardin founded CTC in 2014 with the mission to help children, adolescents, and adults improve their mental health and quality of life. Dr. Hardin provides individual and family therapy as well as supervision and consultation services. She also presents in the community on issues related to parenting, child abuse prevention, self-care, mindfulness, trauma stewardship, and cultural issues. She enjoys working with clients who are in the mental health field who could benefit from getting additional support in the important work they are doing, who are struggling with vicarious trauma or burnout, or who are interested receiving case consultation or support in their own professional development. She utilizes a mind/body/spirit approach and is comfortable supplementing traditional psychotherapy with mindfulness, relational interventions, and body focused psychotherapy such as Somatic Experiencing (SE) or Neuro-Affective Relational Model (NARM).

 

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Show Notes

00:00 Intro

00:58 Supported by the Embodied Healing Group Call

01:56 Introduction

04:07 Opening — Our Story Together, Synchronicities

06:04 Manifestation through Meditation & Prayer

08:26 What is interesting for Bianka now?

10:46 Half German & Half from the South: Learning about the History & Untold

14:48 Healing Trauma to finally enjoy the moment

14:48 Safety on a Road Trip

16:11 Deep Desire to know the Truth & Story

17:24 Markers & Acknowledgement can be Healing

19:07 Contextualizing Mistrust, Safety Issues Makes Sense in the Past

22:06 Someone Else’s Fear

25:59 Bianka’s Experience with NARM

27:17 Attuning to Others — Good Skill for a Therapist — Breaking the Bubble to find Self Again

30:03 What NARM could do what Traditional Therapy couldn’t

33:35 How does NARM work? Understanding the process helps in healing.

35:18 Enjoying the Ride and Pendulating to a Fear Moment — It’s part of the process

37:27 Working with Agency in NARM / Performance Anxiety before the Show

39:57 Noticing Flaws and letting go of Achieving Perfection

42:15 What brings Bianka joy right now?

43:53 Appreciating what’s close & Forest Bathing

43:53 Forest Bathing

46:25 Supervision Meetings Outside between Bianka and Candice

47:27 Too Much Screen Time — Switching it up with Nature

48:06 Thanks & Gratitude

48:50 Bianka’s NARM Workshops and Training Offerings

50:39 Where can you find Bianka?

51:19 Outro

52:40 Biankas NARM Experiential

53:06 Embody Newsletter

53:32 Connect with Me

54:37 Gratitude

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