“Not taking things personally” can be a tough job being a human with emotions and a body! When criticism, harshness, judgment, lashing out, gaslighting, and other reactions from another person can hit us where it hurts, here are some tools to support healing and resolving where it hurts so it’s not just a forced “tough skin” but an organic neutrality or wholeness that leaves us able to be present to what is.
Work with ways to heal the shadow and allow harmony where others push their shadow parts your way. A deep love for yourself, which is loving for all.
At the very least, to digest the emotions we feel when triggered and to experience separation and boundary that gives us room to breathe, feel safer, and more loved from the inside.
Two experientials follow this episode next week where I guide you through a shift through distance and space, boundary, forgiveness, and separation from dependency, as well as to look towards and heal the part of us that gets wounded.
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01:24 Opening — Starting My Garden
03:32 Topic Overview
04:07 Healing Share Program
05:29 A Recent Experience
07:09 It’s Incredibly Hard to Not Take Things Personally
09:14 How to Move Through Experiences That Hurt
12:54 Even Strangers Can Hurt or Trigger
13:46 Learning to Harness My Own Energy and Boundary
16:07 Connecting With the Collective Experience
17:31 Being Shaped by Early Life Experience
18:34 Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn
19:07 Pleasing Others is a Tool but Exhausting
21:53 Tools for a Clearer Way
25:36 Clearing Belief Sets Around Codependency
28:46 Looking at the Conversation and Placing What Was Said
32:27 A Few More Tricks
40:38 Thanking the People
41:51 Upcoming Experientials
45:03 The Embody Newsletter
45:13 Healing Share Program