In this episode, I draw on lessons from the Horses on giving and taking and from the founder of Family Constellations, Bert Hellinger’s ideas on how we stay innocent when we give and feel guilty when we take. His statement that has brought icy feeling of truth to me at times, “It is better for you to feel obligated to me than for me to feel obligated to you,” is a great place to explore what our relationship to giving and taking is.

Where horses take the carrot I give them, I sometimes begrudgingly see my own needs and desires: for the horse to give back to me, love me, kiss me or give me attention… But also the simple lesson of being in complete action and alignment by delighting in the giving.

I invite you to notice on subtle levels why you give, from which place are you giving, and who is doing the giving? It takes grit to be honest and have weight in yourself by recognizing what you might silently or secretly expect from others when you give while finding a place for the pure act of giving.

Also, I touch on taking your parents as they are — a piece that I had forgotten to speak to in the episode on taking.

This conversation is Part 3 of 3 on the investigation and self-inquiry around taking, receiving, and giving. In week 1, I explored the developmental need and assertive tool of taking — the benefits of being able to take and how taking comes before giving in the spectrum of life. In week 2 I explored receiving and how it is connected to our embodiment and visceral reactions as well as permission, belief sets, saying NO, and our ancestral lineage.

Listen to Part 1: Taking vs. Receiving: Cleanse Your Ideas of Taking Receiving, and Giving

Listen to Deepen Your Capacity to Receive: Part 2 of Cleanse Your Ideas of Taking, Receiving, and Giving

 

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Sponsored by the Ally with Death Audio Experiential

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Our relationship with Death gives us Life — If we do not honor death, can we really know what it is to live? Are we able to assert our lives fully and be present to life?

When we resist death, we resist life.

I am thrilled to announce that the Ally With Death Experiential is now a guided audio recording full of moody and provocative music and my voice guiding you through a death of old ways of being, habits and beliefs, and a rebirth into what would feel more like you, life-giving, and present!

This is a beautiful recording featuring music from Larry Saint Germain to shake up the decay and stagnancy inside. If you are feeling stuck, stagnant, ready for what’s next, curious, depressed or anxious about life, uncertain, intrigued about how death can support life, want to get clarity for yourself, or just interested in following nature’s guidance to go inward and let die what needs to die.

Learn more about the Ally with Death at CandiceWu.com/death

 

Show Notes

00:00 Intro

01:52 Sponsored by the Ally with Death Audio Experiential

06:15 Opening & Preparation

07:43 Life Update

09:06 Reviewing Part 1 and 2 of This Series

10:06 Taking Your Place in Your Essence and Lineage, Taking Your Parents as They Are

10:38 Where to find Part 1 and 2

11:05 Taking Our Parents as They Are: Are You Rejecting Yourself Through Them?

16:46 Honoring Who is Behind You

17:39 Giving: It Can Be Overrated. Where is the Giving Coming From?

18:43 My Own Story Around Giving

19:46 Exploring Your Relationship With Giving

20:29 Words That Come Up Around Giving for Me

21:02 The Polarity of Giving

21:31 Excerpts From Bert Hellinger’s Book: Love’s Hidden Symmetry

23:31 My Understanding and How These Words Feel in Me

25:05 The Helper Syndrome: Fundamentally Hostile to Relationships

26:23 Endless Cycle of Expectations

27:16 Questions to Ask Yourself, Are You Able to Receive?

28:14 Fully Taking and Fully Receiving Creates Equality

29:36 Can Giving Really Be Selfless Giving? Does It Need to Be?

31:48 Giving and Taking With Horses

33:51 Exercise Between Humans: What if Someone Just Took What You Gave With No Reaction?

36:22 It’s Ok to Want Care, Love, and Validation.

38:51 How Do We Align With a True Loving Act of Giving and Receiving?

39:20 Vedic Science: Pragña — the Concept of pure/complete Action

43:11 How Do I Feel When I Do Not Give but Others Are?

45:05 Have You Experienced What Happens When You Do Not Give?

45:25 Cleansing the Taking and Giving — Reaching for Alignment

47:32 Approaching Thanksgiving — a Fuller Way of Saying Thanks

49:11 Giving Thanks to Myself and Sharing Gratitude

49:51 How I Started the Podcast as a Way of Expansion for Myself

51:42 This is Episode 99

52:43 Outro

With this episode, let’s cleanse our personal permission to receive and explore how receiving can relate and be blocked by feelings of betrayal within our ancestry and the collective, saying NO, expectations and attachments, our body’s visceral reactions to receiving and belief sets.

A self-exploration on:

  • What is receiving and what does it require us to feel and do?
  • Receiving is all connected to our body’s visceral reactions
  • Our belief sets (and where they come from) that block us from deepening receiving what we desire
  • What do you feel allowed, worthy of, and able to receive? Love, sensuality, abundance, money, compliments, touch…

Plus a sharing about a recent experience with a ghost that I now would rather call a spirit or ancestor and my experiences with Molly Shanahan/Mad Shak Dance Company recently around movements born from trauma.

This conversation is Part 2 of 3 on the investigation and self-inquiry around taking, receiving, and giving. Last week, I explored the developmental need and assertive tool of taking — the benefits of being able to take and how taking comes before giving in the spectrum of life.

Listen to Part 1: Taking vs. Receiving: Cleanse Your Ideas of Taking Receiving, and Giving

Next week — Part 3: Giving With Awareness

 

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📝 https://candicewu.com/receiving

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Candice Wu Page on Facebook

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Sponsored by the Ally with Death Audio Experiential

It’s important to let die what needs to die.

Our relationship with Death gives us Life — If we do not honor death, can we really know what it is to live? Are we able to assert our lives fully and be present to life?

When we resist death, we resist life.

I am thrilled to announce that the Ally With Death Experiential is now a guided audio recording full of moody and provocative music and my voice guiding you through a death of old ways of being, habits, and beliefs, and a rebirth into what would feel more like you, life-giving, and present!

This is a beautiful recording featuring music from Larry Saint Germain to shake up the decay and stagnancy inside. If you are feeling stuck, stagnant, ready for what’s next, curious, depressed or anxious about life, uncertain, intrigued about how death can support life, want to get clarity for yourself, or just interested in following nature’s guidance to go inward and let die what needs to die.

Learn more about and purchase the Ally with Death Audio Experiential at CandiceWu.com/death

 

Show Notes

00:00 Intro

00:56 Finally! The Release of the Ally With Death Experiential

03:36 Grounding in This Moment

04:25 Where I Am: Dance Company Work

06:28 My Ghost Room in Buxton Inn

11:44 A New Astrology Reading by Elena

13:12 Review of Part 1 of This Series

14:47 Receiving: What is Receiving?

15:23 The Biggest Thing About Receiving: It is All in the Body!

19:18 Mention Abraham Hicks — the Receptive Mode

20:25 We Come Into This Life Through and With a Family & Cultural System

22:41 The Personal — mother/father Nervous System Safety

23:14 What Was Your Impression When You Entered This Life?

24:24 Nature vs. Nurture — a Collaboration

25:02 Receiving: What Comes to Mind for You? My Story

26:36 We Can Receive Wanted and Unwanted…

28:44 Asking Yourself What Receiving Has Been Like in Your Life?

30:44 Painful Receiving? Beautiful Receiving Within Healing

32:17 What Causes a Blockage of Receiving?

37:55 We Are Interconnected With Love and All Creatures — is the Suffering of Other Beings Blocking You From Having?

40:01 Story: My Ancestors Suffering is Not My Suffering

42:01 Learn the Ability to Say “No”

42:38 Fear of Not Having It if There is Attachment

43:42 We All Have the Right to Receive

44:55 Reflection of Beliefs Around Receiving — Questions for You

49:30 Forgiveness Statements

51:32 When You Receive: Check How You Receive It?

52:37 Mention Ken Honda

54:18 Resources to Building More Capacity in Yourself to Receive

55:44 As You Receive, Others Have More Permission to Receive

56:35 Supporting the Embody Podcast

57:25 The Embody Newsletter

This conversation offers an investigation and self-inquiry around taking, receiving, and giving. We often overvalue giving and stigmatize taking — that taking is selfish, impolite, or that we shouldn’t… we certainly shouldn’t take too much. And we often moralize that it is better to receive than to take. Does that limit us in our fullness?

We need to be able to take. It is an assertive action we can play with and use when we need it. Taking space, taking your own time, taking up space, taking what we need, and ultimately taking our place. My teacher, Suzi Tucker, says that it is first “take, then give.” Taking comes before giving.

In this episode, I discuss our developmental need to take, what beliefs may interfere with our ability to assert and take what we need or desire, taking too much and its relationship with scarcity, and the wounds and messages we may have received and internalized that make it hard for us to take and receive.

This is part one of the series: Cleanse Your Ideas of Taking Receiving, and Giving. Next week: Opening Your Capacity to Receive

 

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📝 https://candicewu.com/taking

 Podcast Homepage

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Newsletter & Embody Community

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Candice Wu Page on Facebook

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Follow Candice on Instagram

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Sponsored by the Ally With Death Audio Experiential

It’s important to let die what needs to die.

Our relationship with Death gives us Life — if we do not honor death, can we really know what it is to live? Are we able to assert our lives fully and be present to life?

When we resist death, we resist life.

I am thrilled to announce that the Ally With Death Experiential is now a guided audio recording full of moody and provocative music and my voice guiding you through a death of old ways of being, habits, and beliefs, and a rebirth into what would feel more like you, life-giving, and present!

This is a beautiful recording featuring music from Larry Saint Germain to shake up the decay and stagnancy inside. If you are feeling stuck, stagnant, ready for what’s next, curious, depressed or anxious about life, uncertain, intrigued about how death can support life, want to get clarity for yourself, or just interested in following nature’s guidance to go inward and let die what needs to die.

On Sale now until Nov. 15, 2019.

Learn more and order the Ally With Death at CandiceWu.com/death

 

Show Notes

00:00 Intro

01:11 Opening

02:21 Sponsored by the Ally With Death Audio Experiential

05:50 Birthing New by Embracing Death

07:08 Letting Go of Protecting Others Around My Desires

08:22 Opening Up Through Forgiveness Statements

09:34 Feeling More Aligned With the Present Moment… Less Attached to the Future and Outcomes

10:39 Horses Just Go for What They Want!

11:05 This Does Not Mean Not to Think About the Future

11:31 What in You is Dying?

12:27 Honoring Ourselves Around the Holiday Season

13:26 Meditation: Take This Moment With Some Letting Go and Being With Yourself

15:21 Taking - Part 1: The Meaning

16:50 Clearing the Stigma Around Taking

18:06 the Overvaluing of Giving: Depleting Yourself, Why Are You Giving?

19:42 the Developmental Experience of Taking: Taking Before You Can Give

23:13 Being Able to Ask for What We Want and Take It

24:15 Taking: Not What is Not Yours or More Than You Need

25:38 Greed: Taking What is Not Mine as a Proxy to Fix Basic Needs

27:26 Check-in: What is Your Relationship With Taking?

31:12 Our Place in the World: The Right Place is Always Taken, Not Given - Suzi Tucker

37:42 Messages and Judgments We Hear When We Take

38:34 You Decide What You Need, and What You Need is What You Need

39:17 You Have a Place in This World. That’s a Given.

40:11 Check-in: What Kinds of Beliefs Come Up for You?

41:10 Having and Creating Boundaries for Yourself to Take What You Need

42:04 Outro — Part 2 Comes Next Week

42:33 The Embody Newsletter

43:00 My Gratitude & Support Options for the Podcast

43:58 The Embody Meditations Database

44:25 Sending You Into the Week

Angela brings forward the Goddess within along with the stories and lives of women of color and queer women through history that have been often hidden or left in the dark corners! She supports women who have been hurt or confined by versions of spirituality, those who are exhausted by the larger constructs that can oppress, and those who bring their own empowering life forward through her life journey as well as her programs at Holy Women Icons Project.

In this podcast, Angela discusses bringing forward stories that call up a reflection of our self-worth, love, resilience, and strength; her experiences of microaggression in the spiritual community, and her experiences of being a queer clergywoman for 14 years. We have discussions about how the spirituality that was handed to her was a version that felt too confining for the essence of her being that was passionate about dance, arts, and writing.

 

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Sponsored by The Ally With Death Experiential

End the year with letting go, letting die, and releasing what’s needed to make more space for life with the Ally With Death Audio Experiential. This is the audio-guided version that is set to moody and provocative music to bring you deeply into the experience of death and letting die so that you can rebirth and clear the clutter that is ready to be transformed into the compost for life-giving next steps.

Get the Ally With Death Audio Experiential at CandiceWu.com/death

 

Show Notes

0:00 Intro

1:32 About This Episode

3:10 Sponsored by the Ally With Death Experiential

5:36 Introducing Angela

5:54 Opening

6:57 From Performing Arts to Religious Christian Conversion Experience and Back

12:06 Mention — Story of Lilith (First Woman in the Garden of Eden)

13:49 About the Holy Women Icons Project

16:29 Learning to Be What We Can’t See: How Angela Makes These Women From History Visible

19:06 The Subversive Sisterhood of Saints: Who is Guiding Angela Today?

19:43 The Story of Pauli Murray

26:12 Lifting the Women of Color Because They Show a Resilience We Rarely Find in Other Places

27:22 Finding Yourself in Queer / Women of Color Stories Even Though Angela is a White Queer Woman (Alternative: Lifting Others Without the Need to Shine a Light on Oneself or Appropriating)

30:10 Sexuality and Sensuality in the Spiritual Understanding

31:05 Mention — Shulamite Story: The History of the Belly Dance

36:58 Reclaiming Your Define Connection in Yourself and Everything — “Educating the Mind Without Educating the Heart is No Education at All.” —Aristotle

39:46 Ritual Exercises Mean Much More When Done Than Reading About It

42:19 Angela’s Upcoming Retreat: Holy Woman Within: A New Year’s Retreat for Spiritual Creatives

42:35 Mention — Darshan Mendoza

44:12 Women’s Empowerment Work — Like a Power Saw — Let’s Switch Out the Power System

53:14 Preaching in All Kinds of Different Ways That This World is Beautiful and Injust, Let’s Change That.

54:42 Creating More Expansion: Burning Down in Creation

55:41 Special Retreat Offer for Angela’s Holy Women Retreat

57:38 Closing Blessing by Angela Yarber

58:22 Find Angela’s Work Online

59:24 Outro

1:00:01 The Holy Women Icons Project and Retreat

1:00:23 The Embody Newsletter

1:00:44 Sendoff

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