This episode with Aleta Kai was truly invigorating! Aleta’s energetic concoction of spirituality, sensuality, sexuality, power, and loving yourself, mixed with biology and the body brings a stimulating conversation.
Aleta Cai is an NYC based healer and dominatrix who combines her experiences in both into a unique form of somatic and energetic healing. She focuses on embodiment, empowerment and processing trauma. Through her methodology of integrating submission, her clients are able to surrender into their own vulnerabilities in a transformative way.
In this episode we explore:
Aleta’s Journey to a BDSM Dungeon and into her Energy Healing
The power of sexual energy
Permission to feel good about yourself and feel pleasure
The human condition of masochism and the pleasure in pain
How Aleta uses BDSM techniques from more than only a sexual angle — but to awaken the energy of the sacral area in both men and women — as a somatic healing practice to reveal more and open up more for herself and her clients
Aleta’s kundalini awakening and the emergence
The lived and unlived life
Feeling safe in the body — being in the body instead of spiritually bypassing
Using submission and dominance to explore our core being
Showing up in the world vs hiding
Being Chinese and shifting the belief sets that came through culture and lineage
Aleta holds a BA in Psychology as well as an MA in Film Studies, both from NYU. After a few years working in Fashion, she followed both her curiosity and fear into a BDSM dungeon. It ignited a path of healing and integration she never foresaw, and she not only “learned the ropes” there, but learned the ropes for a new way of understanding the human condition. A kundalini awakening further catapulted her towards her life calling of healing and she began her pursuit of the healing arts first through Reiki, hypnosis, clairvoyance and integrative life coaching.
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1:26 Sponsored by My Dream Classes on Skillshare
5:24 Introducing Aleta
7:19 Hiding a Part of Myself (Being a Dominatrix)
8:13 Kundalini Awakening
8:43 The First Sessions after the Awakening were like nothing else!
10:17 What was the shift and the new energy?
12:48 Phases of Dark before Awakening
14:28 How to support yourself through the healing?
17:31 Incorporating BDSM in a new way
20:37 How do you use dominance and submission?
21:16 Societal Core Identities
22:25 The Pressure of Society and what is underneath
25:01 Power in Relationship — The Second Chakra
25:47 Aleta’s Gratitude for her Practice
27:27 The Duality of Healing
27:27 Duality of Healing
28:42 About being Visible in your Work
32:05 You are Invisible
33:04 Learning that it’s not about you — Showing up for the other person
35:08 What struggles is Aleta having now?
37:07 Where are your decisions coming from?
39:28 What delights Aleta right now?
41:51 Sensuality, Pleasure, and Permission / Self Love
44:04 Finding Tantra
45:30 The Power in Sexual Energy
47:30 When life opens up to be pleasurable
49:09 Guilt and Shame for Feeling Pleasure?
50:47 What does Aleta’s Ancestry bring to the experience of Pleasure?
54:22 Thoughts about Self Love
57:04 Pulling Self Love Inside
58:36 Allowing Pleasure and Reward
58:36 Permission to feel good about yourself
59:21 Self Love or Self Masochism?
1:05:50 Butterfly needs Struggle of Emergence
1:06:21 Anything else to share today?
1:06:40 Audience Gift
1:08:09 The Embody Podcast Birthday — A Thank You
1:09:19 The Embody Newsletter